detach.

i think the skill that every person in a relationship has to learn is to be detached. especially in a long-distance relationship.

i've learnt that maybe sometimes we need to put ourselves before the other. this is something that i haven't been able to master since i've been putting my partner first among any other people. it is a perfectly logical argument but the problem is that when you're giving too much, you tend to lose steam and get tired when you're not getting as much in return.

yes some people might say in a relationship, what you give cannot be expected of in return.

but have you wondered, what about the basic satisfaction of a conventional relationship? when that in essence is lacking then it means that you've been giving too much. that is when becoming detached is a beautiful thing.

i am very much happy in my relationship but unfortunately due to reality, it cannot be as complete as i would like it to be. reality that refers to the harsh realities of the current situation we're in. this has entirely nothing to do with either of us, other than because it's like that. why i call it a problem is because i am a person who needs connection with my other half and without that i would start to think of the crazy and impossible things that may happen. this is something that i'm trying my best to correct and it's also the time where the detachment theory comes into play.

regardless, it's the same as what i said before; i need to be more positive and now to add on, more detached!